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Women with children still at home get a raw deal when it comes to divorce and this issue is not related to maintenance payments or lack of them. Not only do women end up a lot of the time with a lesser income, whether they work or not, than most men, but they also have the childcare and lack of privacy aspects.
Having children whatever their ages hampers finding love and relationships going forward. Who wants 2.2 children hanging around in the first throws of lust and that’s even before we get to the love bit. This is not about the love and care we feel and give to our children but the love and care we hope to get back in our lives, not easy.
Here comes the man, be it from the internet or chance meeting in your local Tesco store, he is every thing that you would like, handsome, caring and most important interested in you!! So off we go and get all tangled up together to either discover he has no children, doesn’t particularly like them, could you keep them out of sight and under lock and key when he comes around and definitely no invite to his place includes them. Or is it that he has some of his own who are the best thing since sliced bread and yours will never live up to his Emma or Sebastian’s first walking, talking, looks, or 1.1degree. Even though they live with his ex-wife who, poor woman, who is having exactly the problems we are talking about here.
I am sure that there are those women out there who are crying out whilst reading this article that they disagree with this and would argue that they made it work with Tom, Dick or Harry very nicely thank you! And those men who would say they don’t mind children or who can offload them to their ex-wives so not a problem. But it is a problem out there for a lot of us and how are we ever to come together as mature adults in relationships of any kind if we have to go through all of this with every possible beau, only to find out we are worlds apart in our beliefs about where or if the children should be involved in the relationship.
Do we wear a badge that says beware 2.2 children in tow? Wait until the children are 25 yrs and leave home?,even that is under threat in this economy. Do we just have ‘visits’ when no children are present? Or just go on believing that love will conquer all.. My money is on the latter,
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