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My partner walked out on me 2 weeks ago on our eldest sons 16th birthday.
We had had some issues, nothing major and nothing that couldn't be fixed - or so i thought. I had asked him for time together alone as a couple and time together doing fun things as a family, but he never seemed interested, the only thing he ever showed any animation about was his nights out with his mates.
I threw him a surprise birthday party, all his friends were there and then suddenly at the end of the night he and they had vanished leaving me and a couple of my friends tidying up - my frined then got a call from him to tell me that he was going to a nightclub with his friends - he didn't bother to look for me to tell me he was going or even call me - he just expected my friend to pass the message along - not surprisingly i was a littel upset and when he came home at 3.30am he told me he didn't tell me personally because he couldn't find me - it is so easy to get lost in a single room!!
He got up on the following morning and He just informed me that he no longer loves me and i don't make him happy and he was leaving me, which he did!
I wondered if it was amid life crisis as he had turned 40 the week before, but he is adamant that he no longer wants to be with me.
We have 4 children aged 16, 11, 9 and 6 - the kids are struggling to cope, they have been amazingly supportive of me, but they too don't understand why he had to go and leave us behind, especially when he tells me that i now have everything and he has nothing - he had everything, but he threw it away to sleep on his mates sofa.
I am struggling to cope, i am trying to be strong and get on with life and work etc, but the pain seems to be increasing daily - how can he not love me so suddenly, why wont he talk to me, i suggested relate, but he is not interested, i suggested he come home nad we try to work it out again he is not interested.
All my friends and family tell me i am better off alone and deserve better, but they don't get into an empty bed every night with no one to talk to about the day and the things that couples talk about between themselves.
I am so low - all the plans i thought we had for the future - travelling when the kids are older etc are all gone and i don't know what the point is anymore
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